By guest blogger Tiana Bouma
Tiana is a senior at University of Oregon double majoring in Political Science and Journalism with a focus in magazine. Her hometown is now Bend, OR but she graduated from high school in Danville, CA. After graduating from UO, she plans on traveling and working for National Geographic. During her spare time, she enjoys music, reading, sports and movies.
This blog post is the first in a series of posts about Greek Life in college. Click here for part 2.
For many incoming freshman, fraternity and sorority life is synonymous with the college experience. Yet, entering that commitment can bring about a lot of questions.
As a founding member of a sorority on my University of Oregon campus, I have had a unique experience in the Greek system. I love the experience I am having and I found an amazing community that fits me. Community is the most important aspect to me.
Being a member of the Greek system requires a feel of comfort and ease at the chapter you choose during recruitment. If there is no chapter that appeals to you, then do not force a choice because it will not be the right decision.
If you make the decision to rush, then congratulations, it is a bond that cannot be easily replaced. Do not enter rush with a certain chapter in mind. As much as we may want to be a legacy (a brother/sister, son/daughter, grandson/granddaughter or nephew/niece of a specific member of a Greek organization), what fits for our parents or siblings may not fit for us.
Moving to college and going through recruitment in the first few weeks of school is stressful but remember you are not alone. Remember that everyone going through recruitment is undulated by the college lifestyle and the gaggle of people as well.
Here are a few tips that about going Greek:
- Be yourself – It sounds cliché but the men and women you are meeting need to see the real you.
- Don’t try to force a fit – If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Go with your gut and you will find the chapter that is right for you
- Talk about life and goals – Talking about your goals and life plans will help you make connections with members of the chapter. If you click on those deep-level items, you are bound to get along.
- Be prepared to put work into the relationships – Being a member of the Greek community takes work just like being a member of any community does. Don’t expect everything to come to you. There is a saying, “You get out of it what you put into it.”
- Don’t let your decision be swayed by others – Make sure you are making the decision you want to make. Outside influencers don’t necessarily know what you are feeling and may be tempted to sway you one way or the other for their own reasons.
- Don’t be nervous or scared, you will know when the fit is right
Entering the Greek system is a great experience. I wish you luck if you choose to go through recruitment and when you join a chapter, remember to wear your letters proudly!