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Password Sharing: Relationship Faux Pas?

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Has your significant other ever offered you the password to their Facebook account? Did you take it and find yourself suddenly perusing their private messages?

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A couple months ago I was seeing a guy who didn’t hesitate to ask if I wanted the password to his Facebook account. He said it would make me trust him more if I could see who he was talking to and what he was saying. While he didn’t see anything wrong with that, I did. If the goal was to increase the level of trust between us, how would my having his password build it up? Since when did handing out your passwords to the person you’re interested in become just another step in a relationship?

If we use the password to our partner’s Facebook account, we may eventually feel there IS something to be suspicious about. When something is wrong in a relationship, the typical answer is to talk to that person about the issue you’re having – not skip that little step and instead turn to their Facebook messages.

Curious as to what other 20-somethings thought, I asked a few people, “Couples who share their Facebook passwords, do you think it’s a good idea? Why or why not?” These were their answers:

“I think it is a fine idea to be open with your partner, but at the same time, you should be able to trust your partner and not need that access to his or her Facebook.” – Sheldon, 23

“I don’t think couples should share passwords. Neither should feel there’s a reason to share them. If they think having the password would give them information about their partner that they need to know then it seems like they have issues with trust. If one person really feels like they need their partner’s password, they should ask themselves why and for what reason they’d use it and talk about it with their partner.” – Jessica, 21

“My boyfriend and I have been official for two years, we are open and honest about everything with each other. Although we would gladly give each other our Facebook passwords we never have because we are 100% honest with each other and don’t feel a need. I think it all has to do with trust whether or not couples share passwords.” – Keresa, 22

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Would you give your significant other your password? Let us know in the comments!

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3 Dating Don’ts

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I don’t know about you, but I thought the dating games stopped after you graduated from high school. Apparently not, though, as it seems like all the guys I’ve dated during my college years have been serial game players.

Media and magazines tell us that the way to keep a guy or girl hooked is to play games. Did he wait 10 minutes to text you back? Now you should take 20. Did she come to that Friday night party with another guy? You should take another girl to the next one. In high school it was fun – it kept things exciting and thrilling. Now not only is it inconvenient, it’s downright confusing and stupid. Why play games with the person you’re attracted to? If you both really want it to work out, there are a few things you shouldn’t do to make dating a breeze.

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1. You’re So Vague.

When texting quit being vague. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and nothing else. Being coy can be fun at times, but it also takes twice as long to get anywhere in a conversation. Just say everything flat out and bluntly.

2. No Fake Texts.

Writing texts like, “I’m so excited for tomorrow! I can’t wait to see you!” and sending it to the person you like and pretending you sent it to the wrong person to make them think you’re busy and have other interested suitors. The problem with this is it could go one of two ways: either you’re successful and they reply and they ask you who you meant that text for and what your plans are, or they really do believe you’re interested in someone else and give up wooing you entirely. Do you really want to take that gamble?

3. Don’t Be Jealous.

Despite the numerous advice columns with step-by-step advice on how to make your ex or current crush jealous, purposeful jealousy is never a good idea. It only leads to more drama and more problems.

My best relationship advice? Keep it simple. If you want someone to know something, tell them; don’t drop hints and hope they’ll get what you’re trying to say. Take the mature route because, well – games are for sports, not for personal relationships.

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Guide to Summer Romance on a Budget – BookRenter Infographic

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In summer, the world is a college student’s proverbial oyster. You can go anywhere, see anything, and meet anyone. It probably helps that summer is oyster season, too. BBQ’ed oysters, YUMMM.

Food cravings aside, we created a guide summer romances, along with some interesting stats on meeting that special someone who will make your heart flutter. Keep these tips in mind to keep a new romance afloat, or it may fizzle (unless that’s what you were going for – which is OK, too). Good luck in the love department!

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Can You Find True Love in College?

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By guest blogger Serena Piper
Journalism major at the University of Oregon. Editor-in-Chief of Her Campus Oregon. Magazine, freelance blogger, future world traveler. In her spare time, she likes to read as many books as she can, go for long drives, and peruse news websites. Hopes to one day write for National Geographic.

I didn’t realize I had so much experience dating until recently, when I was talking to my grandmother about the boys in my life. She married when she was 21 and had kids right after so she was never really able to “date around,” as is the norm today. She helped me realize an important life lesson in the aftermath of a series of unfortunate flings with boys: I don’t have to be in a relationship just because everyone else is.

Whoever said school is a place for learning wasn’t entirely wrong, but they neglected to mention that when you have some eye candy in that chemistry class, you’re much more motivated to show up every day. Should college be your go-to locale for flirting or could it really be the place to find your love?

David Coleman says college is just a “four-year experiment.” Coleman is a real life Hitch (think Will Smith movie) and has made it his career to travel to hundreds of universities giving dating advice to students. He says college is “too artificial a situation to have a relationship.” Could he be right?

David Coleman, a real-life "Hitch" -- by Oregon Commentator

“You’re going to throw a bunch of 18- to 22-year-olds into a place where they can hang 24-7, 365, with no parents around, have all that freedom, all that alcohol, and access to each others’ heart, mind, body and soul … when really they’re going to graduate, they have no idea what they’re going to do, or even where they’re going to move or go to school,” Coleman says.

Coleman makes a good point. It’s no wonder there are so many negative dating experiences in college. The bottom line is there is so much pressure from society to have a relationship that when it’s over, it feels like the end of the world. A lot of my friends (and I know I’ve done this too) have put so much of themselves into a relationship thinking that their boyfriend or girlfriend is “the one,” only to have it not work out. They’re left alone and feeling hopeless. With this kind of pattern, college students are especially vulnerable to setting themselves up for disappointment.

It’s hard for me to remember that there’s nothing wrong with me if I’m not in a relationship or constantly looking for one. It is incredibly fun flirting and having the possibility of a relationship present itself, but it’s also refreshing not having the distraction.

If you’re in the midst of pursuing a relationship, try not to take it too seriously at first. Ease into it and embrace the simplicity of not rushing. The best “dates” I’ve been on with a guy were ones where we did a lot of talking. Who says that you have to do dinner and a movie the first time you two hang out? Try going for a walk in the park at midnight; you’ll have the swings all to yourselves. Go for a drink and play some pool. Let him teach you how to sink your ball into that corner pocket (even if you already know how).

Remember that it’s not the end of the world if you’re not in a relationship when it seems like all of your friends are. There’s no rule that says you must find a boyfriend or girlfriend as soon as you begin college so do your own thing on your own terms.

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