Not too long ago, I realized I was planning my post-grad plans around the plans of my friends and family. Because I’ll be graduating soon, I thought this was a pretty crucial problem. Graduation is one of the biggest milestones in our lives. It’s pretty much the first test on how we are choosing to proceed with our lives, and only we can make the best decision for ourselves.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but when I was applying for all these different post-grad options, as seen in my last blog, I was considering how that would affect my relationship with my best friend and my parents. It wasn’t an entirely bad thing, because it meant I was considering others, but then I realized my friends and family don’t plan their lives around me! If I plan around people in my life, I won’t really be living my life for me.
It occurred to me that I might not be the only graduating student planning the next steps of my life this way, so I wanted to pass on a handy tip. My mom told me to ask myself, “If I was the only person I had to worry about, what would I do?” This is a good question to ask yourself.
If you have only yourself to consider, it suddenly becomes much easier to make difficult decisions. Of course, if you’re in a relationship, you do have to ask yourself how your decision will impact the other person, but don’t let it keep you from doing something. I would rather look back and say, “I am glad I did that” instead of “I wish I had done that.”
When you realize you should live for yourself, options and opportunities suddenly become much more plentiful. Let us know in the comments what your post-grad plans are!