As I neared graduation, I couldn’t help but think of all the awesome ways my life was about to change. I knew after graduation I would be working full time in an office doing what I had spent so many days studying, and I would be living alone in a great apartment. Unfortunately, my road has taken me down a different path. Should you find yourself in the same position, don’t fall into the pit of negativity. It is normal for life to not always take the expected path after graduation.
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Here are some common thoughts you might be thinking after graduating:
1. It’s The End Of The World
Graduating college without a job waiting for you is not exactly the best feeling when you’ve been hearing about Sally and John who do have jobs waiting for them. You see social media posts filling up your Facebook about how so-and-so is moving into their own place is also not a great feeling when you probably have to move back home. Although it can be discouraging and sad, it’s not the end of the world. Your time will come, don’t rush it.
2. I Should Have Studied Something Else
I have just recently fallen into this kind of thinking. It just so happens I picked one of the most difficult areas of study to find a job in: journalism. Unlike other fields (like medical), some of us will have our work cut out for us just in job searching alone – but just because it gets hard and the road gets bumpy, that doesn’t mean you picked the wrong major. Remind yourself why you chose to study what you did. It’s important to do what you love.
3. College Was A Waste Of Time And Money
Just a heads up, the six month grace period after graduation flies by! Loan payments are not fun, but remind yourself college was an investment. When I catch myself thinking college was a waste of time, I remind myself that just because it may not have paid off yet, doesn’t mean it wasn’t a good decision. Use this somewhat-negative thinking to kick yourself into high gear for finding a job!
4. This Is Embarrassing
“Have you found a job yet?” “What are you doing with all of your free time?” “Your friends found jobs, didn’t they?” These are the kinds of questions you might get after you’ve graduated and several months have gone by. You may want to crawl under a rock and you may want to heave a big sigh and leave the room. You may feel your cheeks heat up with embarrassment because the person asking you these questions is reminding you of your circumstances. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself to this person, but if you do, be honest. Tell them life isn’t so easy, but you’re doing your best. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone except yourself, and if you are okay with the decisions you are making, everyone else should be too.
5. I Should Be In The Same Place As So-And-So
In life, comparing yourself to others is a dangerous act. Although, it is easy to do today with Facebook and other social media sites where you can see daily what others are up to. Why keep torturing yourself? Your journey is different from everyone else’s, so comparing yourself to someone else is a recipe for disaster. Not all of us had the training wheels taken off our bike at the same time; it’s only natural not all of us will have a job and be able to afford our own place at the same time either. The worst idea is to push yourself into something before you are ready.
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What thoughts have you had post-grad? How are you handling them?