If you are like most college students, you are probably going to be living back home this summer and working at some temporary job to try to save up money for the next semester. Summer with your friends back home can be memorable, exciting, adventurous, and pure fun, but living at home also means you live under your parents’ roof. Clashes can naturally occur between your free spirit and you parents’ authority imposing rules and expectations. I have found that there are certain measures you can take to keep your cool and live harmoniously with your family when you head back home for college break.
1. Accept The Reality
You are not living in a dorm anymore. That means you have to clean up and do laundry on at least a regular schedule. By showing your parents that you are responsible, you may even impress them and have them allow you more liberties. Keeping tensions low by acting and behaving like the full functioning adult we all strive to become one day will earn you the respect of other adults. Save your desire to cut loose, relax, and have fun for nights and weekends.
2. Balance Your Time
Don’t be a ghost in the house and only be home for when you need a place to sleep. Your family is just as important as your best friends and you should want to spend time with them. It is important to go out with your friends and practice a healthy social life, but just balance it. No college student has ever lasted a week at home without thinking to themselves, “Oh my god, I need to get out of this house!” So, I recommend dedicating three days out of the week to spending time with your family (playing games, eating dinner, attending family barbecues or reunions) and spending the rest of your free time either with your friends or doing something you find relaxing. Don’t be afraid to bring your friends around the house for some hybrid family-friend fun too.
3. Always Tell Your Parents Your Plans
Your family cares about you and wants to see you having fun while being safe and responsible at the same time. By telling your parents where you will be, what you will be doing, who you will be with, and when you will be back is a sure fire way to appease their concerns and allow you to participate in worry free fun. If plans change, let them know with a quick text or phone call. Not only is this a courtesy to your family, but it is also a smart safety tactic. If something were to happen, someone will know where you last were and how long it has been before you were supposed to come back. It’s better to be extra careful and to show your parents you are responsible enough without them having to nag you for your plans.
Although it may not be the easiest thing to move back home after living on your own, make the best of it. You will be heading back to campus before you know it and you will actually miss your family. How do you deal with adjusting back to home life?