I don’t know about you, but I thought the dating games stopped after you graduated from high school. Apparently not, though, as it seems like all the guys I’ve dated during my college years have been serial game players.
Media and magazines tell us that the way to keep a guy or girl hooked is to play games. Did he wait 10 minutes to text you back? Now you should take 20. Did she come to that Friday night party with another guy? You should take another girl to the next one. In high school it was fun – it kept things exciting and thrilling. Now not only is it inconvenient, it’s downright confusing and stupid. Why play games with the person you’re attracted to? If you both really want it to work out, there are a few things you shouldn’t do to make dating a breeze.
1. You’re So Vague.
When texting quit being vague. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and nothing else. Being coy can be fun at times, but it also takes twice as long to get anywhere in a conversation. Just say everything flat out and bluntly.
2. No Fake Texts.
Writing texts like, “I’m so excited for tomorrow! I can’t wait to see you!” and sending it to the person you like and pretending you sent it to the wrong person to make them think you’re busy and have other interested suitors. The problem with this is it could go one of two ways: either you’re successful and they reply and they ask you who you meant that text for and what your plans are, or they really do believe you’re interested in someone else and give up wooing you entirely. Do you really want to take that gamble?
3. Don’t Be Jealous.
Despite the numerous advice columns with step-by-step advice on how to make your ex or current crush jealous, purposeful jealousy is never a good idea. It only leads to more drama and more problems.
My best relationship advice? Keep it simple. If you want someone to know something, tell them; don’t drop hints and hope they’ll get what you’re trying to say. Take the mature route because, well – games are for sports, not for personal relationships.