By BookRenter Briana
By aaronisnotcool
In my experience of chatting it up with the opposite sex I have noticed certain do’s and don’ts, that you should consider the next time you see a “potential” at a bar or a party. I know there are plenty I‘m missing so please feel free to add to the list so we can help some of those who are challenged in this area.
Don’t
Don’t Be Aggressive – There is a difference between being confident and being aggressive. Try being confident but also remember that it’s not all about you. Make sure you listen as much or more than you talk. (Especially about yourself.)
Don’t Wear Too Much Perfume/Cologne – You’re obviously going to be close to someone when you’re trying to work your magic but don’t pound on the fragrance. Stick to the basics like deodorant and gum.
Don’t Use Your Hands Without Permission – Even cheesy pick up lines are better than a slap on the cheeks. Not cool buddy, and highly inappropriate!
Do’s
Do Let the Compliments Flowing – Everyone likes to be complimented, and if you don’t your lying. But be casual about it; don’t go overboard with sappy stuff.
Do Play Hard to Get – If you’re talking to someone try and leave and come back. This gives that person the idea that you are not needy, but you’re still interested to come back and spark up another conversation. No one likes a stage 5 clinger. This doesn’t mean leave mid conversation – that’s just rude.
Do Have a Wingman/woman – Make sure you have a distress code that you two will remember. I give me friends the wide eye. 
Be Smart – If you are looking to meet someone special keep the drinks to a minimum.
I completely agree with this but guys remember one thing, the two C’s.. Confidence and Conversation
I love coffee
lol great points!!
one more don’t: do NOT think you are Gods gift to the world…
great tips, I think that another one is to be yourself. Don’t try to hard but be honest and natural, think if they want to see you again you don’t want to have to worry about sticking to a plan or persona.
Agreed. Just be yourself. It will save you trouble in the long run.
Never…. ever touch a womans face!!
Do avoid the hot wings at a bar. You want decent smelling breath when you approach someone.
Do listen and be respectful. If the person says they’re not interested, don’t argue with them about why you’re a great catch. Dismissing them and disrespecting them is showing them just how much of a catch you aren’t.
Agreed on all points – especially the DON’T with the cologne overload.
Don’t bring up why you and your last boyfriend/girlfriend broke up
Also try looking her in the eye and NOT over complimenting her. She knows your game!
I completely agree with these tips. I mean everything is so common sense, we just forget everything when it comes to that second. Remember its about making a good impression not a bad memory!
Totally agree with needing a wingman. You never know when you need to escape!
Don’t interrupt a conversation I have with someone else.. No you can’t just jump in like you were there in the beginning. You just don’t belong in it.
Don’t make it all about you!
do take a shower and clean up before you go out.
do brush your teeth and gargle with mouthwash.
don’t be too aggressive.
don’t be cheap.
don’t make a fool of yourself.
Too much cologne is SO obnoxious!
I especially agree with not wearing too much cologne.
When chatting up someone of the opposite sex DO look for positive or negative signals. If a woman or man is looking around the room and clearly isn’t paying attention, it’s time to move on! DON’T waste your time or the other person’s time. If a woman or man is genuinely smiling, inching closer, and giving playful pats on the arm, you’re in! Seal the deal when finishing your conversation by asking for his or her number.
I agree with all of the above comments. Always be true to yourself no matter what:)
Don’t pretend to be someone that you’re not.
I am so happy to be married and out of that game!!!
i also agree with the above comments, and always remember honesty is the best policy:)
Honesty is always the best policy. Otherwise you are just wasting everyones time
Ugh. Cologne is terrible.
Helpful.Thanks
This is some great advice — especially having the wingman/woman to back you up if you need help
It’s always a great idea to keep the drinks to a minimum when in public, because most drunks make fools of themselves.. LOL
toally agree with the Do’s and Don’ts!
I agree with all of the above comments
Great tips, but be yourself. No one likes being played or lied to.
I can’t help myself. A couple more pointers for the guys-
DO make a note of the woman’s name. Women aren’t stupid. We know why you keep calling us “sexy”, and “cutie”.
DO speak to our faces. Our chests do not talk back.
Hahaha Love this!
To guys:
DON’T talk about how “hott” a girl is if you supposedly like me.
DO buy me a drink. I’ll never turn that down =)
Don’t start endlessly talking about your life and the problems you’ve experienced in your past relationships with someone you hardly know or just met. Sometimes that turns off a “potential” bf/gf because they don’t want to date someone with so much baggage.
Do make a couple good jokes to avoid any awkward silent moments. Everyone likes a person who can make them laugh
All the tips are great. Another one is, be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone that you’re not.
Asking questions helps the person to know you are interested in them, and their story. You can also find out if you would be interested in who the person is, versus just their looks.
I do agree with the above statements–unless one of those people is an unwanted potential. The comments people are leaving are totally viable, because bars can get really creepy sometimes.
If you are meeting someone for the first time. Do not tell them your entire life history!
Good stuff.
Guys’ DO: be yourself and keep her laughing.
Guys’ DON’T: being too forward. Make sure you back off a little and give her enough space to think and get to know the real you
Great tips and i agree just be yourself.
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I concur but too much hard to get is not always the best way to be.
Pretty good do’s and dont’s! Would love to see how much changes the older the writer gets!
Always be yourself, no one likes to find out later that you faked who you were…keep it real and if they don’t like you then so be it, I much rather know a person for real or just forget it.
This is all so true! Always be yourself..dont change for anyone!
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fun post!
I love Coffee! gotta have my coffee in the mornings!
sweet!
Don’t know if I agree with “play hard to get.” I don’t like playing games.
Just be true to yourself.
all good points !
Be sure to look people in the eye when you are talking to them or when you are listening to something they say.
Great tips!
I agree with everything in this post! What a fun post to read
Be true to yourself. Don’t try to be something/someone that you aren’t, it may work out temporarily, but in the long run, it won’t last.
Fun to read – very interesting
Very useful in real life! Thank you!
Good points!
Sounds right to me. Be yourself and be safe.
i met my husband through the internet….so i am lucky in the sense i did not have to go through these do’s and don’ts….but it is always good to learn something new.
I think there a lot more do’s and don’ts than what is listed. Let’s discuss it over coffee.
drink coffee and you won’t have to worry about it!
Do have fun but be yourself and not someone who you think the other person wants. Don’t tell too much at the first meeting. Leave something to the imagination and definitely don’t give away all your secrets. Most of all – don’t expect anything at the first meeting or be too clingy…major turn off!
These are really good tips!
attraction is key…nothin else matters if it’s not there to begin with
Everything above is so true!!! Another thing is Have Fun!!! Seeing someone laughing, animated, and enjoying theirself is Really Attractive. Some friends I hadn’t seen in a while went out one night and were having so much fun, doing what I mentioned above. It must have attracted attention because we got “hit on” more than usual!! We had a blast.
Thanks for the great tips.
great tips. Thanks
Talking about your past is only interesting to you. and be a good listener–but really listen, don’t fake it
And please watch your language. Correct English and no profanity helps make a good impression.